Execute 7 Powerful Book-Ideas

How To Win Friends and Influence People: 7 Book Ideas [Part 1]

by Pat V.C.

October 22, 2020

Have you ever speculated who wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People book?

Of course, almost everyone knows it was Dale Carnegie.

And if you read it, did you ponder how profound the principles or ideas in the book are?

But before we get started…

The first thing to remember, this article and video is part of the “Execute 7 Powerful Book-Ideas” stage.

To explain,

For those who see my video for the first time, within my personal Pat VC brand, I talk about the 7 Wealth Stages (formerly the seven golden rules).

And I believe there are no more than seven stages in our life. 

Introduction To How To Win Friends and Influence People

Every time I create content for this life-stage, it flashed me back to the past when I was reading a particular book. 

Today, I’m excited to talk about one of the special editions which has shaped my life until today.

And which has taught me how to behave with people. 

It means a lot to me as I’ve read it several times and always found something meaningful to implement. 

I’m talking about the book called How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

But first, I handpicked simple yet powerful ideas from the book and divided it into two parts. 

In the first part, you’re going to find out 7 fundamental principle ideas in “Handling People.” 

And if you implement each of these principle ideas, it might significantly make a tremendous impact on your life.  

Now, if you stay up to the seventh idea, I reveal my painful story of my childhood. 

Pat VC - personal story is rooted in me forever

And this story is rooted in me forever.

It touches my heart and simultaneously hurts me anytime when I talk or even think about it. 

Without delay, let’s dive in…

1. The Big Secret How To Deal With People

The Big Secret How To Deal With People - How To Win Friends and Influence People

So what is that vital secret of dealing with people?

Listen to me…

“The Only Way You Can Get People To Do Something Is By Giving Them What They Want.”

Sounds confusing? It could be, but let me explain.

I want you to flashback to your childhood or as an adult and think about when someone asked you to do something.

And when you did or accomplished it, before you usually wanted something… 

Think about it for a moment. 

So what is that “something” that you wanted?

Pat VC - It is all about basic human desire

That something, it’s called the desire

“It’s all about basic human desire, about the human desire to be great and desire to be important.”

Let me ask you this – what do you want right now?

  • Is it better health?
  • Sleep?
  • Drink?
  • More money?
  • Being wiser or smarter?
  • The feeling of importance?
  • Do you want to be appreciated

You see, all these wants are human desires that make you do what you want. 

And without them, you practically don’t operate. 

Ask yourself, would you work without getting paid?

Probably not.

So what’s the first principle secret idea of the book How to Win Friends and Influence People?

“If you want a person to do something, sometimes it is enough to give honest and sincere appreciation.”

2. The Secret How To Be Welcome Anywhere

The Secret How To Be Welcome Anywhere - How To Win Friends and Influence People

This is a profound chapter because it is about to be interested in other people. 

But first,

How many times have you heard during the conversation the word “I.” “I.” “I.”

I’m going to give you an example. 

When you take a group picture with your friends, whose face do they look for first?

Pat VC - When you take a group picture with your friends

It’s theirs, isn’t it? 

You see, people are not interested in you.

They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves – a whole day and night. 

But what if your friends first praise your makeup or a tie, instead of themselves.

What would it look like then? 

Think about it…

If you want others to like you, if you’re going to develop genuine friendship or if you’re going to help others, keep this secret in mind and implement it.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

So what’s the second principle secret idea of the book How to Win Friends and Influence People?

“Become genuinely interested in other people.”

3. How To Make a Great First Impression

How To Win Friends and Influence People - How To Make a Great First Impression

First thing to remember, the impression is like a doorway.

When anytime you step into the office, come home, visit a restaurant, what people notice, or remember first on you?

  • Is it your appearance?
  • Your expensive?
  • Or your inexpensive clothes or shoes?

No, it’s been, and it’s always and only your smile.

Have you realized it?

Look,

rich people, such as Charles Schwab, said that his smile is worth millions of dollars. 

Why?

“Because your charm, smile, and your personality will lead you to extraordinary success.”

And because your smile is a messenger of your goodwill.

Your smile is a messenger of your goodwill

Remember that you cannot borrow, buy or steal a smile…

It costs nothing but creates so much. 

So what’s the third principle idea of the book How to Win Friends and Influence People?

“It’s simple, just smile.”

4. How To Never Head Into Trouble

How To Never Head Into Trouble - How To Win Friends and Influence People

Have you been at the meeting and felt embarrassed to ask someone a question because you didn’t know his or her name? 

And you may have felt nervous because you haven’t been taught to ask questions.

So what could be that real reason to succeed and never run into trouble?

“The answer lies in the How to Win Friends and Influence People book, and it is called “people’s first name.”

Wow, it might surprise you. 

It sounds like a simple definition yet very often neglected. 

Pat VC - It sounds like a simple definition yet very often neglected

I want you to implement it in your life and practice it every day. 

Make no more mistakes about first names. 

The truth is, the ability to remember names is as important in business as in social contacts. 

So what’s the fourth principle idea of the book How to Win Friends and Influence People?

“Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most meaningful sound in any language.”

5. How To Be Better In Any Conversation

How To Be Better In Any Conversation - How To Win Friends and Influence People

Have you experienced feeling during the meeting that you just end up listening to other people who enjoy talking and showing off their ego?

Well, and that’s the problem because people are rarely good listeners.

“The truth is, listening is essential as in personal life as in the world of business life.”

It is the exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you.

Unfortunately, that’s my weakness.

I’ve had this personal weakness to be a good listener. 

But I realize it, and I improve this skill.

I can tell you it’s hard to learn how to listen carefully, and it takes years to develop.

But I work on it daily together with other personal strengths.

So if you aspire to be better in any conversation, be an active listener. 

Pat VC - If you aspire to be better in any conversation, be an active listener

And to trigger to be a careful listener, you need to ask questions that other people will enjoy answering.

Open them to talk about their:

  • life,
  • pains,
  • and successes. 

So think about it next time when you start a conversation.

What’s the principle idea here?

“Be a good listener; ask the right questions and let them talk deeper.”

6. How To Interest People

How To Interest People - How To Win Friends and Influence People

Imagine, you are going to the interview, and you spend a bunch of hours on your preparation. 

And you spend several hours browsing your potential employer’s website and their executives on LinkedIn. 

Especially that person with whom you will meet. 

Because you know, the secret to getting the job is to interest people. 

Leaders know that the royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.

You see, you don’t want to begin talking about yourself, but you speak in terms of what interests other people.

So what’s the sixth principle idea of the book How to Win Friends and Influence People?

“Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.”

7. How To Make People Like You Immediately

How To Make People Like You Immediately - How To Win Friends and Influence People

Let me ask you a question.

When was the last time you said to someone that you appreciate her or his work? Or you appreciate how they speak, write, dress or smell. 

Remember this:

“One of the most profound principles in human nature is the desire to be appreciated.”

The truth is, you want recognition of your true worth.

You want a feeling that you are important in your own world. You do crave sincere appreciation

Now, let me tell you my personal story.

Personal Story

When I was in my young age, around ten-year-old, I played active football. 

I was one of the fastest offensive players, and I was scoring goals for the young team club. 

But because of my age, I had to finish my career in that young club and change to the next club with older team players.

Unfortunately, I encountered there a coach who didn’t see potential in me. 

Pat VC - I encountered there a coach who didn't see potential in me

I was slowly sinking and losing motivation to work

Because the coach repeatedly was saying that I’m only worthy of waiting to replace someone who would be injured or when the right time would come.

But I was asking myself, when is the right time? 

What should I do to be in the same position as in the young club? 

How could I achieve that?

Now, you might think I gave up.

Not really…

And I fought for it. 

I put a lot of effort during the training weeks. 

I tried to improve my sprint, balance, pass with the ball, and always be there for my teammates. 

And the coach noticed it and praised me a bit. 

But when the weekend was coming, I was determined to be there right from the beginning to score goals and be again the best and fastest offensive player.

But during pre-match preparation, the coach announced to me to wait for “the right time.”

I was drained of his attitude, and that time I quit. 

Pat VC - I was drained of his attitude, and that time I quit

That’s the reason why the principle idea number seven has always reminded me of my story. 

From my glory up to the deep abyss.

Because my coach never made me feel important… 

So here is the lesson of the seventh principle idea. 

“Make other people feel important because they will like you immediately. Don’t drag them down.”

Time To Take Massive Action

Yet the book is full of other life-changing principles, I wanted to get started with the most important that I easier to implement. 

In summary,

here are seven How to Win Friends and Influence People principles to remember that I found most powerful.

how to win friends and influence people principles

And working on each of them day by day, will significantly make a tremendous impact on your life.  

1. Principle Idea

Before you speak, pause a while and ask yourself. How can I make this person want to do it? Because sometimes is enough to give honest and sincere appreciation.

2. Principle Idea

Become genuinely interested in other people.

3. Principle Idea

It’s simple, just smile.

4. Principle Idea  

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

5. Principle Idea

Be a good listener, ask the right questions and encourage people to talk about themselves.

6. Principle Idea 

Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.

7. Principle Idea

Make other people feel important because they will like you immediately. Don’t drag them down.

Now, which principle idea are you going to implement? 

Leave me a comment below and keep your powder dry because part two video will be about seven principles to be a leader.

Because I want you to become a Doer.

I will see you next week. 

Pat V.C. has been intensely mentored in the cash flow business model within the larger financial service organization while leading Elite-SEO strategies.
Besides that, he’s been obsessed with creating wealth-building and well-being strategies. And he found out that in our life there are only seven stages. He calls them the 7 Wealth Stages framework.
That’s the reason why he talks and writes about topics related to the 7 Wealth Stages that guide you toward Prosperity and Holistic Wealth. It is personal & professional development about a mindset, elite-income skills potential, personal finance, investment, personal growth, scalability, and abundant life. Pat advocates the statement that elite-income skills are the entryway into financial abundance through well-organized wealth-building strategies.

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